We are our own biggest critics; with the way we act, the way we look, things we do, things we refrain from doing, they way we stack up compared to others. There is this this voice in your head –sometimes occasionally, sometimes continuously– inspring self-deprecation, criticism, and incompetence. “You need to get better grades,” “you need to lose weight,” “why aren’t you as smart as that guy?” “why didn’t you get a job like that girl?” “why can’t you figure out your life already?” “oh you’re trying something new? you’ll probably fail and hate yourself for it!”
I know I’ve been there.. still am there. I know my friends are there, too. Why do we do that? Perhaps it’s some psychological trait that I am not aware of.. a product of the culture we live in? It is so easy to criticize and beat ourselves for things that we can’t change, or quickly dismiss our future. It is much harder to look back at your own life and give yourself credit for how far you’ve come and the progress you’ve made.
Don’t forget that you got into the school of your dreams, and that you’ve done all on your own. Don’t dimiss those A’s you got in your favorite classes because your first year destroyed your GPA. Don’t fret over the jobs that others have –you’re not them, and for all you know, they may make money, but hate their lives. Don’t deny yourself the pride for overcoming a rough emotional and mental period. Remember those bullies in middle school who made your life miserable; see how much stronger you are. Remember how you moved to a new place where you didn’t know a single soul, yet you still made friendships that will last your entire life. Don’t ever doubt that you’ve made an impact on the life of another person. See how others changed your life.
Look at yourself 3, 5, 7, 10 years ago. You’re not the same person, are you? You’ve changed, grew, transformed. I am not the timid, quite, self-hating person I was then. I know who I am today, even though there are still parts I need to figure out. I did many of the things I wanted to do.. sometimes with the help of others, sometimes by myself.
Give yourself some credit. You deserve it.